Rethink Sex: The problem with sexual education in America
It's that time again all the kids are lining up for another annual sex ed class. Everyone knows what is going to happen, the boring 90 year old man will tell us about how by having sex you can transfer; chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, yeast infections, Hepatitis a,b and c! Not to mention HIV, HPV, herpes, crabs, scabies and last but not least AIDS! They tell you what? The only way to not get a disease is to not have sex.
It's a very informative class, and a fun one too! You get to see the inside of penis and vagina in black and white. You get a little worksheet where you put the words to the parts. For example you need to correctly find where the labia and clitoris are located on a vagina. From the angle the vagina sort of looks like a weird alien lol!
I don't know about you but when I'm going down on a girl it looks more like this.
Now this would be a much better example but let's be realistic those conservative soccer moms would lose their basket. Hell why even tell kids about having safe sex when we could just tell them not to have sex, a fucking full proof plan. No sex=no unwanted babies and no disease. Marry the one you love, who you know is safe. I mean most kids are Christians anyways right. But why should it be the parents responsibility to talk about sex, that conversation is far too awkward to talk about I mean your mom and pa talking to you about sex! Gross! So it should be schools responsibility.
Just hire someone to go to all the schools in the district to talk about Abstinence! Have him show a few videos on how scary STD's are. Show the little ones, how to correctly point out what a scrotum is. In high school teach the same thing, maybe cut out the genital diagrams and just talk more about STD's.
That only problem with that plan is it never worked.
Current Sexual Education
With these numbers it's not hard to figure that the ways were teaching about sex is completely wrong. Over the years schools have tried to modify their plans to turn it from Abstinence only to Abstinence plus. Abstinence plus is modified sex ed that follows a more realistic approach but it has flaws. It teaches that you being abstinent is a good plan but if you do happen to have sex with another partner wear a condom. This is a step in the right detection but like I said it has its flaws.
For starters it still follows the old path of abstinence, telling you that you should try and stay with long time partner if you going to have sex. Teenagers are social beings, if they meet a interesting guy or girl, they will form a mental connection as well as a physical connection. Sex in my opinion is something your body needs, saying things like abstinence makes sex seem like something that needs to be put away, something that should be used for reproduction rather than fun. Abstinence programs make sex seem like something you should be ashamed off, that if you not in year long relationship having sex is wrong.
The second problem with these programs is they fail to cover other subjects such as homosexuality and cheating. Say you’re one of these people who are in a abstinent relationship and your partner has sex with another person and infects you with a disease. Many married women as well as some men are infected with STD's like HIV and AIDS because they don't even think about practicing safe sex or testing because the APE tells them that because there in a married relationship there is no need to test. Also this type of sex ed doesn't talk about homosexuality so gays aren't learning all the facts that they need to learn.
Lastly since the programs are abstinence based things like contraception are contradictory. So they will tell you to use condoms and describe how to put a condom on but since they are more focused on abstinence they leave out subjects like where to get condoms and birth control, how to get them if you are low income, what are the side effects, etc'
As well as school, parents need to step up to the plate and start talking realistically to their kids. The schools aren't doing the best job so you might as well do yours. By telling a kid that they should not under any circumstances have sex won't help them any. Now I’m not saying you have to talk about every intimate details but just talk to kids about if their being safe. Parents need to talk to their kids about the importance of safe sex by using condoms and birth control. They should buy their kids condoms and birth control, it might be scary thinking that your kid is having sex but would you rather them be safe? When I say talk to your kids I don't mean from across to chairs, in serious voice, while polishing your shotgun, I’m saying do it in a friendly environment like when your watching television together or at the dinner table. Don't talk to them about sex like if it were a drug or alcohol. It's something that you know they will do, so make sure they know how to do it safe.
In closing I would like to say that, we need to think about sex in a much more understanding reasonable way, in school sex education programs should cut out abstinence and replace it with contraception, focus on teaching the kids about ways to protect themselves instead of ways to sustain themselves. Make an environment where it is OK to ask question about sex, explain to them that sex is fun and exciting but can be dangerous if you’re not smart.
tl;dr sex is not evil, teach safety instead of abstinence
I watched a movie called "Let’s talk about sex" and I’m pretty much just outlining the movie, but I agree with the movie and the message so I think it should be spread.