1. Post #481
    Trying to avoid something so much, is counterproductive. It fogs the mind, and you stop acting you like you normally would.

    You seem to be analyzing too much. Fuck what your friend told you. If she didn't want to have a relationship, you guys would not be texting right now.

    Go for it. Be assertive, be sure about your decision. Trust me, it can make a difference between a friendzone situation and going out to a date. The longer you wait, the more the chances of being friendzoned goes up.
    also friends are dicks sometimes
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  2. Post #482
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    Seith's Avatar
    August 2006
    3,334 Posts
    maybe it's just me but february seems like a really crappy month for relationships
    probably the weather
    I go with a hard hat flashlight on me at all times during those tough times.
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  3. Post #483
    Tennisball's Avatar
    January 2010
    232 Posts
    Trying to avoid something so much, is counterproductive. It fogs the mind, and you stop acting you like you normally would.

    You seem to be analyzing too much. Fuck what your friend told you. If she didn't want to have a relationship, you guys would not be texting right now.

    Go for it. Be assertive, be sure about your decision. Trust me, it can make the difference between a friendzone situation and going on a date. The longer you wait, the more the chances of being friendzoned go up.
    You're right. I just talked to her and I now have a date (at least I think that's what it is, I'll explain more tomorrow) on Tuesday!
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  4. Post #484
    Behemoth_PT's Avatar
    March 2007
    1,933 Posts
    Relevant to this topic:

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  5. Post #485
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    Meller Yeller's Avatar
    June 2010
    10,329 Posts
    Every single time, no girl I'm interested in is ever available. In the middle of a conversation she'll say something about "my boyfriend did so-and-so yesterday, blah blah" and I'm just like "...ah shit".

    You guys complain about having the balls to ask a girl out. Well I can't even get to that step.
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  6. Post #486
    aliendrone123's Avatar
    June 2010
    3,622 Posts
    Been rejected 3 times so far. Twice by one girl. Now I sorta ran out of people I'm interested in so this is quite the predicament. but I still have feelings for the one I got rejected by twice. aaaah
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  7. Post #487
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    January 2009
    2,400 Posts
    Been rejected 3 times so far. Twice by one girl. Now I sorta ran out of people I'm interested in so this is quite the predicament. but I still have feelings for the one I got rejected by twice. aaaah
    stop being picky.
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  8. Post #488
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    October 2008
    7,775 Posts
    That date was odd

    I've had 5 girlfriends but I have never just been on a date with someone I barely know, so I did today and it was odd. Hardly any flirting happened, we just talked and got to know each other and stuff but it was just friendly really. She talked more than me which is great as I feel that any silence might have been awkward

    I got her number and have the opportunity to see her again, but I don't know how well today went. I hope she had fun
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  9. Post #489
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    September 2008
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    Been rejected 3 times so far. Twice by one girl. Now I sorta ran out of people I'm interested in so this is quite the predicament. but I still have feelings for the one I got rejected by twice. aaaah



    Go meet new people and/or stop trying so hard. You make it sound like there's something wrong because you're not in a relationship.
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  10. Post #490
    I got her number and have the opportunity to see her again, but I don't know how well today went. I hope she had fun
    No, man, to me that sounds like an utter fail.
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  11. Post #491
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    October 2010
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    Above is non-annoying girl gamer that I talk to a bit and I seem to be hitting off REALLY well with her.


    Please tell me this picture is real and she exists, because this is the girl I've wanted for like ever.

    Edited:

    I mean seriously.


    Valve fan.

    Played Half Life.

    holy shit
    So uh basically this quote. She's never kissed a guy before or anything, and knowing you guys are total bros, I'd like to see what you lot think.
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  12. Post #492
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    February 2009
    3,831 Posts
    Been rejected 3 times so far. Twice by one girl. Now I sorta ran out of people I'm interested in so this is quite the predicament. but I still have feelings for the one I got rejected by twice. aaaah
    1, Why did you ask the same girl twice?
    2. You asked out 2 girls, not the entire school. I'm sure you're interested in someone else.
    3. There is no predicament, stop forcing the issue of dating one particular girl if she continually rejects you.
    4. You don't need to be in a relationship.

    Edited:

    So uh basically this quote. She's never kissed a guy before or anything, and knowing you guys are total bros, I'd like to see what you lot think.
    Where'd you meet her? This is what really is going to influence my decision.
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  13. Post #493
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    October 2008
    7,775 Posts
    No, man, to me that sounds like an utter fail.
    we didn't flirt at all is my main gripe, just talked lots
    Kinda used to things being very flirty so I'm a bit put out by this, but it may be a good thing, we did talk about like everything under the sun
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  14. Post #494
    Clops with bisousbisous daily <3
    Mr. Smartass's Avatar
    December 2010
    9,188 Posts
    How do you find out the relationship status of someone in the most non-awkward way possible?
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  15. Post #495
    Huge Faggot #2
    GoldenGnome's Avatar
    November 2007
    5,149 Posts
    Ask her out.
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  16. Post #496
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    No Party Hats's Avatar
    October 2010
    12,811 Posts
    1, Why did you ask the same girl twice?
    2. You asked out 2 girls, not the entire school. I'm sure you're interested in someone else.
    3. There is no predicament, stop forcing the issue of dating one particular girl if she continually rejects you.
    4. You don't need to be in a relationship.

    Edited:



    Where'd you meet her? This is what really is going to influence my decision.

    At school. I sit in one one of her classes because I have Study Hall.
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  17. Post #497
    TheHypnotoad's Avatar
    June 2010
    2,153 Posts
    At school. I sit in one one of her classes because I have Study Hall.
    Go for it. Seriously.

    If you already talk to her in class, ramp it up keep talking to her (Not just about games, though common interest in that area is good)

    Get full friendly then just ask her out somewhere, doesn't have to sound like a date just a cafe or maybe a film.

    Just don't let it slip away.
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  18. Post #498
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    No Party Hats's Avatar
    October 2010
    12,811 Posts
    I wasn't intending on letting this one slip. She's like exactly what I've wanted ever in a girl
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  19. Post #499
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    September 2008
    3,899 Posts
    If she's at school and she's inexperienced in dating, then it would be best to get to know her before dating because school aged people tend to have less of an inclination towards the world of dating before relationships.
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  20. Post #500
    The Doctor Is In
    Pascall's Avatar
    September 2009
    24,005 Posts
    Go for it. Seriously.

    If you already talk to her in class, ramp it up keep talking to her (Not just about games, though common interest in that area is good)
    this is important
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  21. Post #501
    we didn't flirt at all is my main gripe, just talked lots
    Kinda used to things being very flirty so I'm a bit put out by this, but it may be a good thing, we did talk about like everything under the sun
    But you got to know her.
    You didn't know her before, but you know her now, you have her number and she is willing to get together again. I am pretty sure that is success, at least in a minor extent. More success than fail.
    Give it another go. See how it goes. If it does it does, if not, more fishing to do.
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  22. Post #502
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    October 2010
    12,811 Posts
    So I asked about going out sometime soon, and she said definitely, just that tomorrow morning we'll talk about a date and shit.

    woo!

    BAD MISTAKE AHEAD

    sometimes I make excited faces when good things happen.

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  23. Post #503
    aliendrone123's Avatar
    June 2010
    3,622 Posts
    1, Why did you ask the same girl twice?
    2. You asked out 2 girls, not the entire school. I'm sure you're interested in someone else.
    3. There is no predicament, stop forcing the issue of dating one particular girl if she continually rejects you.
    4. You don't need to be in a relationship.
    1. First time it was more of an inderect sorta thing. So I thought I'd try again one day. (encouraged by my friend..)

    2. I probably will be later on, you're right

    3. Yeah I dunno why I said that I need to watch my wording.

    4. So very very very true. I tell myself that all the time although that doesn't change the fact that I want to be in one.


    All valid points, will take note.
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  24. Post #504
    Ladowerf's Avatar
    March 2010
    793 Posts
    does anyone think that a cigarette shared can be more then a friendly gesture?
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  25. Post #505
    JoshJosh117's Avatar
    August 2009
    855 Posts
    does anyone think that a cigarette shared can be more then a friendly gesture?
    Yes. Obviously someone is trying to kill you slowly with lung cancer.
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  26. Post #506
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    October 2008
    4,439 Posts
    Guys what do I do. I've been talking to this girl for the past few days and everything has been going well and she knows I have the intentions of being with her as her friend who I'm friends with introduced me to her. Aaaaaaand Valentines Day is right around the corner so I'm guessing getting her a cute little card and maybe an other little gift will be good. Ya know, nothing too big, nothing too small, and it sorta fits how things are going right now.
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  27. Post #507
    Mr Jazz
    Makol's Avatar
    January 2009
    38,809 Posts
    Ok so I'm watching this thing go down on Facebook.

    Person A is leading on person B and person B seems to be completely into person From what I know person A has no interest in person B at all. Thing is, person A doesn't even seem to realize they're leading on person B. I am really fighting the urge to tell person A about what they're doing to person B, but last time something like this happened I got kind of yelled at, guess I ruined her plans of using person B to get whatever it is they want. So I guess I'll just sit back and watch this thing go on for who knows how long, it's been going on for nearly three months now already.

    Edited:

    Two similar situations are going on at other places I frequently visit but oh well, doesn't seem like I can do anything even though it bugs me with what there people are doing. Guess I'll sit here and watch the fireworks as I eat a "share size" Skittles bag.
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  28. Post #508
    Huge Faggot #2
    GoldenGnome's Avatar
    November 2007
    5,149 Posts
    Ok so I'm watching this thing go down on Facebook.

    Person A is leading on person B and person B seems to be completely into person From what I know person A has no interest in person B at all. Thing is, person A doesn't even seem to realize they're leading on person B. I am really fighting the urge to tell person A about what they're doing to person B, but last time something like this happened I got kind of yelled at, guess I ruined her plans of using person B to get whatever it is they want. So I guess I'll just sit back and watch this thing go on for who knows how long, it's been going on for nearly three months now already.

    Edited:

    Two similar situations are going on at other places I frequently visit but oh well, doesn't seem like I can do anything even though it bugs me with what there people are doing. Guess I'll sit here and watch the fireworks as I eat a "share size" Skittles bag.
    Be the rainbow.
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  29. Post #509
    Juice_Layer's Avatar
    February 2010
    1,508 Posts
    does anyone think that a cigarette shared can be more then a friendly gesture?
    I always wondered why people winked at me when I bummed cigarettes off of them.
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  30. Post #510
    The Maestro's Avatar
    March 2011
    1,858 Posts
    does anyone think that a cigarette shared can be more then a friendly gesture?
    I hope not because once when I was working I gave a 60+ year old dude a cigarette and didn't even accept the dollar he tried giving me for it.
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  31. Post #511
    Not actually a glitch
    Glitchman's Avatar
    May 2005
    4,270 Posts
    Well, I'm in a weird situation.

    My girlfriend of 4 months just doesn't "like" me.

    Shes always been weird around me, she doesn't say anything nice to me at all, and shes never really flirted with me. Yesterday I asked her why I feel like she doesn't like me. She pretty much texted me a million things that she dislikes about me, followed with that she just really doesn't like me in general. However, she doesn't want to break up. I'm also pretty sure she is talking to other guys, in a flirtatious way. I would expect the normal thing to do is to break up with her, but I really do like her a lot.
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  32. Post #512
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    October 2008
    4,439 Posts
    Well, I'm in a weird situation.

    My girlfriend of 4 months just doesn't "like" me.

    Shes always been weird around me, she doesn't say anything nice to me at all, and shes never really flirted with me. Yesterday I asked her why I feel like she doesn't like me. She pretty much texted me a million things that she dislikes about me, followed with that she just really doesn't like me in general. However, she doesn't want to break up. I'm also pretty sure she is talking to other guys, in a flirtatious way. I would expect the normal thing to do is to break up with her, but I really do like her a lot.
    Dump that ungrateful wench
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  33. Post #513
    Dump it like it's hot.
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  34. Post #514
    Str4fe's Avatar
    December 2009
    5,002 Posts
    I guess i will try to ask a girl out once more. Been rejected so many times, so I wouldnt even care if i get rejected anotjer time. After this one, i'll just spend the weekends in a bar and see if i gind someone from there.
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  35. Post #515
    Dennab
    January 2012
    609 Posts
    Why stop trying if you no longer care? If anything, that sounds like incentive to just ask girls out willy nilly. Learning how to stop caring gives you a huge advantage as long as you don't approach girls with an obviously miserable tone. Who cares if she says no? Who cares if she says yes? Just go with it and whatever happens, happens.

    If you can get that mindset going, you'll find success. Keep in mind that there's a difference between not caring and expecting failure, the latter turns girls off instantly.

    Also, guys get turned down all the time. You aren't the only chap to be rejected a lot. Before I found my current girlfriend, I got turned down all the time. However, each rejection is an isolated incident, they don't impact each other. As in, a girl turning you down doesn't increase/decrease your odds of being turned down the next time. It's like flipping a coin, just because it lands on heads 99 times in a row doesn't (for the sake of the analogy, it's a fair coin) change the odds of the 100th flip. It'll still be a 50/50 chance.

    So being rejected, no matter how many times it happens, is no excuse to stop flipping the coin. The odds are the same each time, don't let insecurity convince you otherwise. Very few men go through their lives without meeting rejection multiple times. It makes you stronger.
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  36. Post #516
    Str4fe's Avatar
    December 2009
    5,002 Posts
    Why stop trying if you no longer care? If anything, that sounds like incentive to just ask girls out willy nilly. Learning how to stop caring gives you a huge advantage as long as you don't approach girls with an obviously miserable tone. Who cares if she says no? Who cares if she says yes? Just go with it and whatever happens, happens.

    If you can get that mindset going, you'll find success. Keep in mind that there's a difference between not caring and expecting failure, the latter turns girls off instantly.

    Also, guys get turned down all the time. You aren't the only chap to be rejected a lot. Before I found my current girlfriend, I got turned down all the time. However, each rejection is an isolated incident, they don't impact each other. As in, a girl turning you down doesn't increase/decrease your odds of being turned down the next time. It's like flipping a coin, just because it lands on heads 99 times in a row doesn't (for the sake of the analogy, it's a fair coin) change the odds of the 100th flip. It'll still be a 50/50 chance.

    So being rejected, no matter how many times it happens, is no excuse to stop flipping the coin. The odds are the same each time, don't let insecurity convince you otherwise. Very few men go through their lives without meeting rejection multiple times. It makes you stronger.
    Im gonna stop trying because i already tried everyone vv

    Now i'll just stop trying and go with the flow, see if i can find someone without trying to find that someone. But yeah, i have stopped caring lately anyway, and i have been going with that mindset.

    Around here the girls only go on a date if they have a crush on the guy asking.
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  37. Post #517
    BiigTony's Avatar
    June 2011
    565 Posts
    Okay quick question, Should I give this friend that has Best-Friend-Zoned me a valentine card?

    And this is the girl who once said: I didn't kiss you because it could ruin our friendship.

    Yes - No?
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  38. Post #518
    Chief of facepunch medical staff
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    December 2006
    18,447 Posts
    no
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  39. Post #519
    Tennisball's Avatar
    January 2010
    232 Posts
    I'm going out with a girl on Wednesday and we've been texting flirtatiously since Saturday. Should I be saying something about valentine's day?
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  40. Post #520
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    August 2006
    3,334 Posts
    I'm going out with a girl on Wednesday and we've been texting flirtatiously since Saturday. Should I be saying something about valentine's day?
    Are you asking to be romantic without even having at least one date?

    Go out with her, and see if it still fits your pattern of thought.
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