I don't know how to deal with my mom as a person anymore.
When my grandma passed away she had a severe case of dementia. After she passed away, my mom’s biggest fear in life was to end up as “loopy and unpleasant” as grandma was. With the hormone altering drugs she’s had to take for the last year to prevent the cancer coming back, mom’s been much more unpleasant than grandma ever was. The starting phase of her medication was understandable, and things were relatively okay.
For the last six months she's been getting meaner and meaner. Right now she’s to the point where she isn't a person, but the caricature of a bitter old woman. Pops and I are trying really hard to try to help her in every way possible, while being as nice as possible, so she can simmer down and maybe enjoy a book like she used to. However, within two minutes of waking up she’s already so mad at both of us that we might as well not exist. We can’t even say “good morning” before we get berated on how ‘useless’ and ‘stupid’ we are. She's also given up on trying to find a medicine that works which also makes her feel like her happy old self.
It’s getting really hard to be around her, and I’ve only been here for summer break. After being yelled at for a straight 50 minutes last night I got in the car and drove down the highway until three in the morning to keep me occupied.
I don’t know what to do at this point. Suggestions?
(Sorry for wall of text/blogpunch and all that)
I really don't think you're going to find much useful advice here, I don't think any of us are psychiatrists or anything of the sort.. but maybe a psychiatrist? I really have no idea. I never heard of medicine that makes you unpleasant.
Either way, have a heart.
Edit I just realised you probably live in the USA and a psychiatrist would cost money.. dunno.
Looks like she needs to go to a home or just live away from you.
I'm assuming you have a dad who can look after you.
People absolutely should not have been disagreeing with Roll_Program's saying it's not good to go weeks without speaking to people. It really is not good at all.
Friends and the ability to interact with people easily are very important. You can't really get anywhere in life without them and if you have neither you need to work on it or you're stuck, honestly.
Lol, you don't go to bars or clubs if you just want to find someone to talk to.
yeah I'm not in denial that this is a big problem for me, just that I don't have any idea how to solve it
Man, this is one awesome thread. Wish I'd noticed it sooner, might have started posting awhile ago. ^^;
My Grandmother died about two years ago now.. Man, it does not feel like two years - didn't even realize it'd been that long until typing that. Anyways.. She'd been in declining health, and her mind was slipping gradually. I honestly didn't notice it the same as some did, perhaps I turned a blind eye to it and wasn't realizing it, or maybe I simply was lucky enough to never see it. Either way, she passed on in an altogether unfortunate way.. It was rough and drawn out, and my mother more or less cracked as a result of it.
Not to say my mother was ever truly cheerful, she had anger issues from as long as I've known her, but she DID mellow out a bit over the years.. After my Grandmother passed though, she lost herself for awhile, and became someone unpredictable. Worse still, she was diagnosed as having a few months back, which was safely removed - but doctors remain unsure if it's helped as of yet.
In any case, with all that's happened to her she can be very spiteful and angry at times. She'll snap my head off over nothing some days and I just do my best to avoid her. Doesn't help that I've gotten nothing but mixed signals over the whole being gay thing either. I get the feeling to her it's nothing more than yet another burden she has to deal with, which is dejecting..
I wish I had some advice for you, but truth is I think this is I'm not sure what to tell you.. It's rough, and you have my sympathies.
If you're still at school, why not consider joining a school club? Do you have any hobbies? Perhaps there's some group of gamers at school who do LAN parties (there was at mine, although granted this was a few years ago when LAN parties were more of a thing). Books? Drama? Just join a random club as an excuse to get talking to people. Even if they live far away, at least that's something. How old are you?
You can also look for a job while you do it. Any job. I'd recommend a customer service job like working in McDonalds which forces you to talk to people - once you've done it enough times you'll stop worrying about it.
I've known some people online now for well over a decade, and we still talk almost every day.. Face to face communication isn't everything, though it is nice.
That's not a terrible voice at all. Just sayin'
Good news with my mom!
I followed a hunch and signed her up for a summertime membership at a local private pool. She used to go lap swimming every day, and she stopped fairly recently.
So I drove her to Wendy's (which has the only hamburgers in town that she likes) and I handed her the paperwork for the membership. She was happy, which is good to see. She's also agreed to see the Oncologist again!
Now if I could just do something about my uncle sneaking in at 2am and stealing our food.
e:Gotta go fill out a prescription, the chores keep on coming. Oh well!
guard dog or alarm system
Hmm, I'm joining a gym soon and got Trainers to wear. The trainers I bought are white + red and my t-shirt and trousers are navy/black. Would white trainers + Navy/black matter if I'm going to the Gym? I don't know if I should go get white trousers + t-shirt.. :x I've never been to a Gym before I don't know how I should look to be honest~!
i went to london zoo today to see all the animal
i met gorilla
and then stole nana's mobility scooter to make this dumb vid lol
also hi twinks etc
It's the gym, nobody cares how you look.
You're gonna get sweaty and gross, it's the idea.
Don't forget to stretch before and after!
also im 17
offtopic a little bit but i can't stop laughing at what i found on naught's profile
Socialisation is over-rated.
Just makes you dependent on others, therefore weak.
The best way I think of it is, Yeah I have friends, I see them sometimes, but could I kill them if I had to?
Yes. As close as I am to them, I am not dependent on their continued existence to somehow make me happy or build me up.