1. Post #8161
    meow
    Dennab
    February 2012
    3,083 Posts
    The land of pizza and lovemaking
        Yes, its italy   
    Too bad my mums sauce recipe is better than yours >:3
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  2. Post #8162
    The Revelation
    Joseph Smith's Avatar
    July 2011
    2,896 Posts
    Too bad my mums sauce recipe is better than yours >:3
    You wish gar, you wish...
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  3. Post #8163
    meow
    Dennab
    February 2012
    3,083 Posts
    You wish gar, you wish...
    I'll let you come over today when you try the sauce you'll be begging for more guaranteed!
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  4. Post #8164
    The Revelation
    Joseph Smith's Avatar
    July 2011
    2,896 Posts
    I'll let you come over today when you try the sauce you'll be begging for more guaranteed!
    Well, it actually depends on the sauce itself at this point.
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  5. Post #8165
    Resident dragon enthusiast.
    Dennab
    September 2010
    10,153 Posts
    Afternoon, gentlemen.
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  6. Post #8166
    meow
    Dennab
    February 2012
    3,083 Posts
    Afternoon, gentlemen.
    Afternoon, Bond.
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  7. Post #8167
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    Super Muffin's Avatar
    June 2006
    3,209 Posts
    I don't know how to deal with my mom as a person anymore.

    When my grandma passed away she had a severe case of dementia. After she passed away, my mom’s biggest fear in life was to end up as “loopy and unpleasant” as grandma was. With the hormone altering drugs she’s had to take for the last year to prevent the cancer coming back, mom’s been much more unpleasant than grandma ever was. The starting phase of her medication was understandable, and things were relatively okay.

    For the last six months she's been getting meaner and meaner. Right now she’s to the point where she isn't a person, but the caricature of a bitter old woman. Pops and I are trying really hard to try to help her in every way possible, while being as nice as possible, so she can simmer down and maybe enjoy a book like she used to. However, within two minutes of waking up she’s already so mad at both of us that we might as well not exist. We can’t even say “good morning” before we get berated on how ‘useless’ and ‘stupid’ we are. She's also given up on trying to find a medicine that works which also makes her feel like her happy old self.

    It’s getting really hard to be around her, and I’ve only been here for summer break. After being yelled at for a straight 50 minutes last night I got in the car and drove down the highway until three in the morning to keep me occupied.

    I don’t know what to do at this point. Suggestions?

    (Sorry for wall of text/blogpunch and all that)
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  8. Post #8168
    LifePunch.net
    MonkeysLP's Avatar
    June 2010
    1,170 Posts
    I really don't think you're going to find much useful advice here, I don't think any of us are psychiatrists or anything of the sort.. but maybe a psychiatrist? I really have no idea. I never heard of medicine that makes you unpleasant.

    Either way, have a heart.

    Edit I just realised you probably live in the USA and a psychiatrist would cost money.. dunno.
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  9. Post #8169
    hyper-articulate
    Roll_Program's Avatar
    October 2007
    11,915 Posts
    Social worker.

    Looks like she needs to go to a home or just live away from you.

    I'm assuming you have a dad who can look after you.
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  10. Post #8170
    Resident Dick Master
    mikeyt493's Avatar
    September 2008
    38,137 Posts
    how do i find people to talk to
    Bars? Clubs? Any kind of social gathering? Groups at college/uni? If you don't go to college or uni, there's either high school or work. Both have people. There's loads of places to meet people, and those who say there aren't obviously don't try. Starting out is the hardest part. Once you start meeting people you'll realise how much more interesting and fun it is than spending the majority of your life sitting on the computer.

    People absolutely should not have been disagreeing with Roll_Program's saying it's not good to go weeks without speaking to people. It really is not good at all.
    Friends and the ability to interact with people easily are very important. You can't really get anywhere in life without them and if you have neither you need to work on it or you're stuck, honestly.
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  11. Post #8171
    hyper-articulate
    Roll_Program's Avatar
    October 2007
    11,915 Posts
    Lol, you don't go to bars or clubs if you just want to find someone to talk to.
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  12. Post #8172
    Bars? Clubs? Any kind of social gathering? Groups at college/uni? If you don't go to college or uni, there's either high school or work. Both have people. There's loads of places to meet people, and those who say there aren't obviously don't try. Starting out is the hardest part. Once you start meeting people you'll realise how much more interesting and fun it is than spending the majority of your life sitting on the computer.
    I'm not 18 yet so no bars or clubs, I'm unemployed and I barely know anyone in school, plus school is geographically quite far away and no one who goes there lives nearby.

    People absolutely should not have been disagreeing with Roll_Program's saying it's not good to go weeks without speaking to people. It really is not good at all.
    Friends and the ability to interact with people easily are very important. You can't really get anywhere in life without them and if you have neither you need to work on it or you're stuck, honestly.
    yeah I'm not in denial that this is a big problem for me, just that I don't have any idea how to solve it
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  13. Post #8173
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    Krisan Thyme's Avatar
    July 2012
    17 Posts
    Man, this is one awesome thread. Wish I'd noticed it sooner, might have started posting awhile ago. ^^;

    I don't know how to deal with my mom as a person anymore.

    When my grandma passed away she had a severe case of dementia. After she passed away, my mom’s biggest fear in life was to end up as “loopy and unpleasant” as grandma was. With the hormone altering drugs she’s had to take for the last year to prevent the cancer coming back, mom’s been much more unpleasant than grandma ever was. The starting phase of her medication was understandable, and things were relatively okay.

    For the last six months she's been getting meaner and meaner. Right now she’s to the point where she isn't a person, but the caricature of a bitter old woman. Pops and I are trying really hard to try to help her in every way possible, while being as nice as possible, so she can simmer down and maybe enjoy a book like she used to. However, within two minutes of waking up she’s already so mad at both of us that we might as well not exist. We can’t even say “good morning” before we get berated on how ‘useless’ and ‘stupid’ we are. She's also given up on trying to find a medicine that works which also makes her feel like her happy old self.

    It’s getting really hard to be around her, and I’ve only been here for summer break. After being yelled at for a straight 50 minutes last night I got in the car and drove down the highway until three in the morning to keep me occupied.

    I don’t know what to do at this point. Suggestions?

    (Sorry for wall of text/blogpunch and all that)
    Sounds a little like my situation.
    My Grandmother died about two years ago now.. Man, it does not feel like two years - didn't even realize it'd been that long until typing that. Anyways.. She'd been in declining health, and her mind was slipping gradually. I honestly didn't notice it the same as some did, perhaps I turned a blind eye to it and wasn't realizing it, or maybe I simply was lucky enough to never see it. Either way, she passed on in an altogether unfortunate way.. It was rough and drawn out, and my mother more or less cracked as a result of it.

    Not to say my mother was ever truly cheerful, she had anger issues from as long as I've known her, but she DID mellow out a bit over the years.. After my Grandmother passed though, she lost herself for awhile, and became someone unpredictable. Worse still, she was diagnosed as having a few months back, which was safely removed - but doctors remain unsure if it's helped as of yet.

    In any case, with all that's happened to her she can be very spiteful and angry at times. She'll snap my head off over nothing some days and I just do my best to avoid her. Doesn't help that I've gotten nothing but mixed signals over the whole being gay thing either. I get the feeling to her it's nothing more than yet another burden she has to deal with, which is dejecting..

    I wish I had some advice for you, but truth is I think this is I'm not sure what to tell you.. It's rough, and you have my sympathies.
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  14. Post #8174
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    Splurgy_A's Avatar
    February 2006
    1,106 Posts
    I'm not 18 yet so no bars or clubs, I'm unemployed and I barely know anyone in school, plus school is geographically quite far away and no one who goes there lives nearby.



    yeah I'm not in denial that this is a big problem for me, just that I don't have any idea how to solve it
    Let's address this point.
    If you're still at school, why not consider joining a school club? Do you have any hobbies? Perhaps there's some group of gamers at school who do LAN parties (there was at mine, although granted this was a few years ago when LAN parties were more of a thing). Books? Drama? Just join a random club as an excuse to get talking to people. Even if they live far away, at least that's something. How old are you?
    You can also look for a job while you do it. Any job. I'd recommend a customer service job like working in McDonalds which forces you to talk to people - once you've done it enough times you'll stop worrying about it.

    Edited:

    I really don't think you're going to find much useful advice here, I don't think any of us are psychiatrists or anything of the sort.. but maybe a psychiatrist? I really have no idea. I never heard of medicine that makes you unpleasant.

    Either way, have a heart.

    Edit I just realised you probably live in the USA and a psychiatrist would cost money.. dunno.
    It really unnerves me when I hear Americans say stuff like "We couldn't afford to go to hospital" or "I can't go to a psychiatrist because it's too expensive". There's African countries with more accessible health care.
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  15. Post #8175
    hyper-articulate
    Roll_Program's Avatar
    October 2007
    11,915 Posts
    Let's address this point.
    If you're still at school, why not consider joining a school club? Do you have any hobbies? Perhaps there's some group of gamers at school who do LAN parties (there was at mine, although granted this was a few years ago when LAN parties were more of a thing). Books? Drama? Just join a random club as an excuse to get talking to people. Even if they live far away, at least that's something. How old are you?
    You can also look for a job while you do it. Any job. I'd recommend a customer service job like working in McDonalds which forces you to talk to people - once you've done it enough times you'll stop worrying about it.

    Edited:


    It really unnerves me when I hear Americans say stuff like "We couldn't afford to go to hospital" or "I can't go to a psychiatrist because it's too expensive". There's African countries with more accessible health care.
    People seem to ride that as an excuse a lot, to just never fix things.
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  16. Post #8176
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    Krisan Thyme's Avatar
    July 2012
    17 Posts
    I'm not 18 yet so no bars or clubs, I'm unemployed and I barely know anyone in school, plus school is geographically quite far away and no one who goes there lives nearby.
    Finding people to talk to isn't easy. I'd suggest just making friends online however you can and talking with them on a regular basis. I live in a horrible place, nowhere to go and nothing to do. And the few friends I had as a youth have long since moved away. The only good friends I have, and probably the truest ones I've ever had at that - are online.

    I've known some people online now for well over a decade, and we still talk almost every day.. Face to face communication isn't everything, though it is nice.
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  17. Post #8177
    Gold Member
    Dennab
    April 2010
    14,106 Posts
    http://vocaroo.com/i/s0grFRW8iJsb

       Terrible voice is terrible   

    Edited:

    Also, just as I was about to go hom from work, it starts raining heavily. And as soon as I reach my hoom, the rain stops. Hooray.
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  18. Post #8178
    Jubey93's Avatar
    November 2011
    188 Posts
    That's not a terrible voice at all. Just sayin'
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  19. Post #8179
    Resident dragon enthusiast.
    Dennab
    September 2010
    10,153 Posts
    That's not a terrible voice at all. Just sayin'
    Ye, I kinda like it.
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  20. Post #8180
    Hello Handsome
    Dennab
    February 2010
    13,495 Posts
    http://vocaroo.com/i/s05td5rRUm6u
    I sound so scripted im not used to this oh god
    Not loud enough.

    OPEN UP 'DEM CHEEKS BOY.

    Edited:

    No, not THOSE one's, the other one's!

    Edited:

    holy shit redback got banned
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  21. Post #8181
    Gold Member
    Super Muffin's Avatar
    June 2006
    3,209 Posts
    I wish I had some advice for you, but truth is I think this is I'm not sure what to tell you.. It's rough, and you have my sympathies.
    Thanks. And I'm sorry you're going through this too.

    I'm assuming you have a dad who can look after you.
    I'm only here for the summer, I head back to college at the end of August

    -----------------------------------------------------
    Good news with my mom!

    I followed a hunch and signed her up for a summertime membership at a local private pool. She used to go lap swimming every day, and she stopped fairly recently.

    So I drove her to Wendy's (which has the only hamburgers in town that she likes) and I handed her the paperwork for the membership. She was happy, which is good to see. She's also agreed to see the Oncologist again!

    Now if I could just do something about my uncle sneaking in at 2am and stealing our food.

    e:Gotta go fill out a prescription, the chores keep on coming. Oh well!
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  22. Post #8182
    Meow :3
    Ac!dL3ak's Avatar
    July 2005
    6,045 Posts
    guard dog or alarm system
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  23. Post #8183
    hyper-articulate
    Roll_Program's Avatar
    October 2007
    11,915 Posts
    Call Batman.
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  24. Post #8184
    Gold Member
    Fivas's Avatar
    October 2010
    1,423 Posts
    Hmm, I'm joining a gym soon and got Trainers to wear. The trainers I bought are white + red and my t-shirt and trousers are navy/black. Would white trainers + Navy/black matter if I'm going to the Gym? I don't know if I should go get white trousers + t-shirt.. :x I've never been to a Gym before I don't know how I should look to be honest~!
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  25. Post #8185
    Tea
    Dennab
    December 2008
    4,084 Posts
    i went to london zoo today to see all the animal

    i met gorilla


    and then stole nana's mobility scooter to make this dumb vid lol

    also hi twinks etc
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  26. Post #8186
    hyper-articulate
    Roll_Program's Avatar
    October 2007
    11,915 Posts
    It's the gym, nobody cares how you look.

    You're gonna get sweaty and gross, it's the idea.

    Don't forget to stretch before and after!
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  27. Post #8187
    Siminov's Bitch
    EvilSkydiver's Avatar
    April 2011
    1,422 Posts
    Call Batman.
    now you have to call robin, boy wonder.
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  28. Post #8188
    Best Poster
    Saza's Avatar
    July 2009
    19,034 Posts
    I'd like to go see the new batman movie. Is it good?
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  29. Post #8189
    Gold Member
    Fussy!'s Avatar
    June 2007
    8,942 Posts
    i went to london zoo today to see all the animal

    i met gorilla


    and then stole nana's mobility scooter to make this dumb vid lol

    also hi twinks etc
    Wow you're alive.
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  30. Post #8190
    Resident Dick Master
    mikeyt493's Avatar
    September 2008
    38,137 Posts
    I'd like to go see the new batman movie. Is it good?
    it owns I saw it twice

    Watch Begins first if you've not tho, helps things make a bit more sense
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  31. Post #8191
    Tea
    Dennab
    December 2008
    4,084 Posts
    Wow you're alive.
    i never died just migrated to twitter at least a year ago
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  32. Post #8192
    I'd like to go see the new batman movie. Is it good?
    yea it's brilliant

    Edited:

    Let's address this point.
    If you're still at school, why not consider joining a school club? Do you have any hobbies? Perhaps there's some group of gamers at school who do LAN parties (there was at mine, although granted this was a few years ago when LAN parties were more of a thing). Books? Drama? Just join a random club as an excuse to get talking to people. Even if they live far away, at least that's something. How old are you?
    well next year there's a programming club starting where we'll apparently get to dick around with raspberry pis, but right now it's the summer and I've got fuck all to look forward to in the short term. i also go to the philosophy group thing but it ironically doesn't really lend itself to any kind of interesting discussion

    also im 17
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  33. Post #8193
    Gold Member
    Fussy!'s Avatar
    June 2007
    8,942 Posts
    i never died just migrated to twitter at least a year ago
    How'd that fare?
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  34. Post #8194
    Go make yourself a fucking waffle.
    Naught's Avatar
    April 2012
    3,069 Posts
    People seem to ride that as an excuse a lot, to just never fix things.
    the reason I cant go is because my parents think that im fine and its just teen angst, so they refuse to pay money for it/drive me
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  35. Post #8195
    asdfghjkl;
    Funion's Avatar
    October 2008
    3,115 Posts
    offtopic a little bit but i can't stop laughing at what i found on naught's profile
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  36. Post #8196
    Go make yourself a fucking waffle.
    Naught's Avatar
    April 2012
    3,069 Posts
    dammit
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  37. Post #8197
    Tea
    Dennab
    December 2008
    4,084 Posts
    How'd that fare?
    520 followers and quite a few twitter friends, twitter meetup at the end of next month, also a blowjob from some guy in scotland
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  38. Post #8198
    Gold Member
    Fussy!'s Avatar
    June 2007
    8,942 Posts
    520 followers and quite a few twitter friends, twitter meetup at the end of next month, also a blowjob from some guy in scotland
    Sounds like you're winner.
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  39. Post #8199
    DoktorAvidan's Avatar
    February 2010
    282 Posts
    Socialisation is over-rated.
    Just makes you dependent on others, therefore weak.

    The best way I think of it is, Yeah I have friends, I see them sometimes, but could I kill them if I had to?
    Yes. As close as I am to them, I am not dependent on their continued existence to somehow make me happy or build me up.
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  40. Post #8200
    Contron's Favourite Foxy
    eurocracy's Avatar
    May 2007
    1,238 Posts
    Socialisation is over-rated.
    Just makes you dependent on others, therefore weak.

    The best way I think of it is, Yeah I have friends, I see them sometimes, but could I kill them if I had to?
    Yes. As close as I am to them, I am not dependent on their continued existence to somehow make me happy or build me up.
    Are you for real?
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